از نویسنده‌ی -۱۲ قانون برای زندگی-
Notes from the talk by Jordan Peterson.
- Memory is a wired thing. It's so goal-oriented.
- Stand upright with your shoulders back and straight.
- Lobsters govern their posture with Seratonin!!! It's a two-way connection.
- The counter in everyone's mind that keeps track of the status: Counts on the ratio of negative emotions to the positive emotions.
- Part of the brain that determines your hierarchy is really old. Older the part that recognizes trees.
- Consciousness is as important as intelligence in success.
- Occupying more space: Confidence! Because you're more likely to get hurt since you are more available in the space. That biologically shows confidence.
- Two: Treat yourself like you are someone that you care about!!!
- We don't want everyone to be just nice :/ That's actually pathetic. We want them to challenge us so that we can earn respect.
- It's not easy for a self-conscious being to love himself. Because you know you are fragile and not perfect... You know everything you did!!!!!!!! Solution: Love the sinner but hate the sin!! It's not only you.
- Act as if you genuinely love yourself. Just like you act toward someone you actually like :)
- You make the word much worse of a place if you don't take care of yourself.
- Make friends with the ones who care the most about you.
- Be careful with whom you share the good news.
- Be careful with whom you share bad news.
- Compare yourself with who you were yesterday; not who someone else is today !!!!!!!
- It's a normal distribution!!!!!!!!!!! Most human characteristics are normally distributed.
حاجی این همون چیزیه که من حدس میزدم که بعضیا توی یکی‌دوتا چیز خیلی خوبن ولی توی بعد های دیگه‌ی زندگی لنگ میزنن. و برعکس بعضیا تعادل دارن ولی توی هیچ چیزی خیلی خوب و شاخص نیستن. یه نقطه‌ی بهینه اون وسط هست طبق معادله‌ی توزیع نرمال که پیدا کردن این نقطه‌هه به نظر من بزرگ‌ترین چلنجه توی دنیای تخصص‌گرای امروز.
- The ideal is a judge. You're never as good as your ideal.
- Set a high aim but differentiate it into steps. Steps small enough but at the same time hard enough to challenge you but not to disappoint you.
- The smallest detail of your life, happen to matter.
- Just tell you're kids if you're not in a good mood and tell them you are great but just go away :D
- Play is the way that kids develop. If your kid is accepted by other kids to be played in their game, you are a successful parent.
- People want something to be wrong with them so that they could think that there is a fix. Otherwise, they tend to blame all other people.
- If you're reading history, you should read it as if you are that (bad)person you're reading about. And see if you could have done otherwise.
- Do you wanna be right or do you wanna be learning?
- Listening is a transformative exercise. Listen to others! We don't listen at all to the point that if we actually listen to others they will be shocked!
- Here's a trick to see if you're listening: Say hey this is I think you're saying... Summerise their argument! Wow so simple.
-You have to be alert when you're suffering. You have to be alert on the beauty of life. Pet a cat in the street!
- If people are not listening to you, stop talking to them and start watching them. If you keep talking and not to pull back, you are de-valueing the stuff you're saying.
- It's only us humans who can do this: To let your old self to die and your new self to born.
